Showing posts from May, 2012
Over My Dead Body
Healthy children will not fear life if their elders have integrity enough not to fear death. ~Erik H. Erikson Two weeks ago, I had the honor of participating in the memorial service for my dear friend Martha Jean Sams and learned two important things about funerals that I want to share.  One, it’s O.K. to have fun at a funeral and two, preparation of a eulogy is good for the soul.  We had a really good time at Martha Jean’s funeral. In fact, I had so much fun that I thought I should have been the one writing the thank you note to the family instead of the other way around. It was a weekend long combination of reunion, party and grief support. While I kept reeling in my joy over the reunion part in an effort to honor those hurting, everyone seemed to have as much fun as I did and we kept reminding ourselves “she would have wanted it this way.”  It is a difficult line to walk between celebrating a life believed to have ended in the glory of a soul entering heaven and k…